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5 things To Build the Most Enjoyable Relationships

A relationship

To be a truly great partner in any relationship requires effort and a major dose of consciousness. The latter is without question the deciding factor. Recently I saw so many news and dramas, they all talk about that their husband or boyfriend cheating on them, which why today I want to share some points to let you guys can work together to maintain your relationship.

To be honest, I don’t have many relationships and I always got hurt in every relationship, but I still not giving up in love and also believe there are true love waiting for me in the future. You may think what will I write in this article? Well, I just wanna share some views of a relationships, that you probably need to read it, to help you maintain and manage your every relationship.

在任何關係中成為真正的偉大夥伴都需要付出努力和大量的意識。 毫無疑問,後者是決定因素。 最近,我看了這麼多新聞和戲劇,他們都談論他們的丈夫或男朋友在騙他們,這就是為什麼我今天想分享一些觀點,讓你們大家一起努力維護你們的關係。

老實說,我沒有很多戀愛關係,每一次戀愛都受到傷害,但是我仍然沒有放棄愛情,也相信未來會有真愛在等著我。 您可能會認為我會在這篇文章中寫什麼? 好吧,我只是想分享一些關係的觀點,您可能需要閱讀它,以幫助您維護和管理您的每一個關係。

1. honest & trust

What’s the most important in every relationship, even in a marriage?

The first answer of mine is definitely ”honest”.  Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, not only because it helps us avoid harmful breaches of trust, but because it allows us to live in reality as opposed to fantasy and to share this reality with someone else. Of course, every human being has their own unique perceptions of the world, but by sharing these perceptions with each other, we get to know each other for who we really are. 

A relationship doesn’t have to be perfect. Just be honest with each other.

There is no one is perfect in the world, which your partner won’t be your ideal type, for that’s person didn’t exist. In Asia, every star or idol have their own image that it’s builded by company, which means those image is not who they really are, that’s why they will be forgot by people when scandal come up. When I was young, I always image that I want to have a boyfriend who just like a singer etc. After I grow up, I just found out that image doesn’t mean who they really are.

In my case, I remember that year is 2017 that I was 23, the first guy who I like just show up in my life and I really got hurt by him. Well, actually I am a weirdo because I am a person who are super rational, which I’m not easy to like someone. Anyway, I’m not gonna say he was cheat on me because we were just dating not into a relationship, but I just found out he had a girlfriend at that time. Hey don’t get me wrong, I am not a person who will destroy others relationship, which I stopped to contact with him as soon as I found out he had a girlfriend.

There is what I want to say is ”Honest” is the first basic important thing in a relationship, if he will chatting or dating other girl when he have a relationship, then he is not an honest person, which you have to let him go, once you find out that he doing this thing. Because he will do it again, that you don’t have to waist your time with him anymore. A person who really likes you will only want to spend time with you, there will be no extra time to chat with others. 

在每一段感情中,甚至在婚姻中,最重要的是什麼?


我的第一個答案肯定是“誠實”。誠實是建立健康關係的關鍵組成部分,不僅因為它有助於我們避免有害的信任破壞,而且因為它使我們能夠生活在現實中而不是幻想中,並可以與他人分享這一現實。當然,每個人對世界都有自己獨特的看法,但是通過彼此共享這些看法,我們彼此了解我們的真實身份。

關係不一定是完美的。但要彼此誠實。

世界上沒有完美的人,你的伴侶絕對不是你理想的類型,因為那個人不存在。在亞洲,每位明星或偶像都有由公司打造的自己的形象,這意味著這些形象並不是他們的真實身份,這就是為什麼當醜聞浮出水面時,人們會忘記它們的原因。小時候,我總是想像自己想要一個像歌手等的男朋友。然而,長大後,我發現這種形象並不代表真正的他。

就我而言,我記得那年是2017年,那時我23歲,這是我人生中第一個喜歡的人,而我也真的受到了他的傷害。其實我是一個怪人,因為我是一個非常理性的人,所以我非常不容易喜歡上某個人。我並不會說他是劈腿,因為當時的我們只是在約會而不是進入一段真正的關係,然而,我那時發現他當時有一個女朋友。嘿,請不要誤解我,我不是一個會破壞別人關係的人,所以一發現他有女友時,我立即斷掉與他的所有聯絡。

我想說的是,「誠實」是人際關係中最重要的基本事物,如果他已經是有女朋友的人,然後還會和與其他人聊天或約會,那麼他就不是一個誠實的人,你就必須讓他走。因為他一定還會再做一次,所以你不必再花時間與他在一起。一個真正喜歡你的人只想花時間和你在一起,不會有多餘的時間與他人聊天。

2. share

We want to share our lives with someone special.

This is key. When you decide to make someone a priority in your day, you’re taking a step in the right direction. This doesn’t mean you’re spending every day with them, but you at least think of them. 

You incorporate quality time with them into your schedule. Time is a valuable thing and none of us want to waste it, so if you’re choosing to spend your time with someone, you’ve already begun to share your life with them.

My last relationship that we were not in the same country, which means we have jet lag. Actually I still don’t know were we got in a relationship at that time lol. Anyway, what I want to say is I cherish every period when we’re awake that we can chat and share every moment, which I always reply his messages as soon as possible. For me, I think every relationship don’t need to meet everyday. Well, let me be clear, This is only in a relationship, not for a marriage. What am I saying is no matter that your relationship is a long distance, or not. If you guys can share everything, including life, sex, future, goals and family, then it’s a healthy relationship.

我們想與特別的人分享我們的生活。

這是關鍵。當你決定優先考慮某人時,你就朝著正確的方向邁出了一步。這並不意味著你每天都在與他們共度時光,但至少你會想到它們。

你可以將優質的時間與他們的時間表相結合。時間是一件很有價值的事情,我們誰都不想浪費時間,因此,如果你選擇與某人共度時光,那麼你已經開始與他們分享生活。

我的上一次戀愛是我們不在同一個國家,這意味著我們時差。其實我還是不知道我們當時是否有戀愛關係。無論如何,我想說的是,我珍惜每時每刻都能聊天和分享的時刻,我總是會盡快回复他的信息。對我來說,我認為每個戀愛關係都不需要天天見面。好吧,讓我清楚一點,這只是在一段關係中,而不是一段婚姻。我的意思是不管你的關係是否違遠距離。如果你們可以分享一切,包括生活,性別,未來,目標和家庭,那麼這是一種健康的關係。

3. Accept

A good relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present, and encourages your future.

When it comes to dating or being in a relationship, it takes a certain amount of acceptance towards your partner, and when it comes to things that you can’t change. You can’t expect to have a perfect relationship or even a perfect partner for that matter, as I said on the top, no one is perfect. Relationships involve a certain amount of give and take, and there will many things that you need to accept. That’s why it’s important to figure out whether or not you and your partner are truly the right match for one another and whether or not you can accept certain things.

Sometimes we simply can’t accept certain things. This is why it’s so important to truly get to know one another while dating and even before getting into a relationship, so that you’ll know each other on such a deep level that you’ll have the chance to get to know all about their morals, beliefs, and in a nutshell, what kind of a person someone is. The only way to truly get to know someone is by spending enough quality time with them, and asking them the right types of questions.

If you’re dating someone or in a relationship, you need to realize that it’s supposed to be an “adult relationship,” and not merely some puppy type of love, like you might’ve experienced in your childhood. Therefore, relationships take hard work, effort, time, acceptance, and a certain amount of give-and-take. Not everything is always going to go the way that you want it to, and it’s important to realize that from the very get-go.

談戀愛或與伴侶建立關係時,需要你對伴侶的接受程度,以及涉及你無法改變的事情。在這件事上,你不能指望有完美的關係甚至是完美的伙伴,就像我上面說的,沒有一個人是完美的。關係涉及一定量的付出和接受,並且你需要接受很多東西。這就是為什麼弄清楚你和你的伴侶之間是否真正合適的配對以及您是否可以接受某些東西的重要性。

有時我們根本無法接受某些事情。這就是為什麼在約會時甚至在建立關係之前真正認識彼此如此重要的原因,以便彼此之間有一個深刻的了解,讓您有機會了解他們的所有知識。道德,信仰,簡而言之,某人是什麼樣的人。真正認識某人的唯一方法是與他們花費足夠的時間,並向他們提出正確的問題類型。

如果你要與某人約會或有一段戀愛關係,則需要意識到這應該是一種“成人戀愛關係”,而不僅僅是像小狗一樣的愛情。因此,關係需要艱苦的工作,努力,時間,接受和一定程度的付出和接受。並非所有事物都總是按照您想要的方式發展,因此從一開始就意識到這一點很重要。

4. support

In a relationship each person should support the other; they should lift each other up.

Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you felt supported? When was the last time you felt safe, at home, encouraged, and able to be 100 percent yourself?

If your partner creates a safe space for you to do this, then you are truly blessed. If not, have you ever wondered why you don’t feel safe, supported, and loved?

When someone truly loves and supports you, they will stand beside you when you need them, and give you the space you need to roam free and grow as a person.

They will never judge you or put constraints on your mind, your physical body, or any of your dreams. They will be a cheerleader for your cause without being a groupie. They’ll go to the other side of the world for you when you need them, but they won’t smother you.

They might not be around all the time, but for the things that really matter, or for when you are sick or in the dark, they’ll be there at your side, without you even needing to ask.They might seem like the busiest person in the world or the least affectionate at times, but when it matters, they’ll drop everything for you.

Most of all, they will see you. This person will see what other people can’t. They’ll see you in all your beauty and grace, as well as your darkness and faults. They will see you for the person you are now and the amazing one they know you are truly capable of becoming, even if you can’t quite see this yourself yet.

And they’ll love you. Unconditionally. And that’s really all that matters in this life.

They Support you Emotionally

If you are down or going through something, they are there for you. True emotions always come out when things are bad.

But if they’re willing to be a supportive friend during tough times, then this person really matters to you. they care when you are hurting. They are affected if you are upset. They are emotionally invested at this point, which you has become an important part of their life.

在戀愛關係中,每個人都應該互相支持。他們應該互相成長。

讓我問你一個問題。你上次感到支持是什麼時候?你上一次感到安全,受到鼓舞並能夠100%感到自己是什麼時候?

如果你的伴侶為你創造了一個安全的空間來做到這一點,那麼你真的很幸運。如果不是,你是否想過為什麼不感到安全,得到支持和被愛?

當某人真正地愛你並支持你時,他們會站在旁邊,並為您提供自由漫遊並成長為一個人所需的空間。

他們將永遠不會審判你或對你的想法。他們將成為你的事業的啦啦隊長,而不會成為團伙。當你需要它們時,它們會為你前往世界的另一端,但不會使你感到窒息。

他們也許可能不會一直存在,但是對於真正重要的事情,或者當你生病或處於黑暗中時,他們會一直在你身邊,甚至你都無需詢問。他們似乎是世界上最忙的人,或是像是不親近的人,但在重要的時候,他們會為你放棄一切。

他們會愛你的。無條件的。這實際上就是一生中最重要的。

他們會在情感上支持你

如果你情緒低落或正在經歷某些事情,他們會在你身邊。當事情變壞時,你總會出現真正的情緒。

但是,如果他們願意在困難時期成為支持朋友,那麼這個人對你來說真的很重要。當你受傷時,他們會在意。如果你不高興,他們會受到影響。他們在這一點上投入了情感,這已成為他們生活中重要的一部分。

5. consider

You Consider Them When Making Future Plans

If this person crosses your mind when making future plans for the weekend, an upcoming trip or even where to grab dinner that night, then you really value spending time with them.

You are wanting to share new experiences with them. You truly enjoy quality time together. While it’s nice to always be able to do things separately, you care enough about this person to want to keep sharing your life with them.

You’re Willing to Try New Things for them.

We all get stuck in our habits of what we like to do. You could have a strict list of hobbies that you enjoy doing when you have free time such as hiking, playing video games or reading. With a partner comes a new set of hobbies that they bring to the relationship. It could be fun to try something that they like and vice versa. 

I’m not saying that now you can do everything together. It’s important to keep some things separate. Keep your individuality by enjoying things outside of your relationship, but be open to trying new hobbies together.

Maybe you both have always wanted to take a dance class. Sign up for one together. Maybe you’re both interested in painting. Trying it together would be great quality time and you’d both be learning something new.

When you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone to embrace something new with your partner, not only are you sharing your life, but you’re also opening yourself up to new experiences.

你在製定未來計劃時會考慮他們

如果這個人在製定週末的未來計劃,即將到來的旅行,甚至當晚在哪裡吃晚飯時想出了主意,那麼您真的很珍惜與他們共度時光。

你想與他們分享新的經驗。你可以一起真正享受美好時光。總是能夠分開做事很好,但你對這個人很在意,希望繼續與他們分享生活。

你願意嘗試新事物

我們都陷入了自己喜歡做的事情的習慣。當你有空閒時,你可能會喜歡一份你自己的業餘愛好清單。有了伴侶,他們就會為關係帶來新的興趣。嘗試他們喜歡的東西可能會很有趣。

我並不是說現在你可以一起做所有事情。有些事也是要分開。通過享受關係以外的事物來保持個性,但也嘗試新的愛好。

也許你們倆一直想參加舞蹈課。一起報名參加。也許你們都對繪畫感興趣。一起嘗試將是一段美好的時光,並且你們倆都在學習新的東西。

當你願意離開自己的舒適區與伴侶擁抱新事物時,你不僅可以分享自己的生活,而且還可以為自己帶來新的體驗。

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