To be a truly great partner in any relationship requires effort and a major dose of consciousness. The latter is without question the deciding factor. Recently I saw so many news and dramas, they all talk about that their husband or boyfriend cheating on them, which why today I want to share some points to let you guys can work together to maintain your relationship.
To be honest, I don’t have many relationships and I always got hurt in every relationship, but I still not giving up in love and also believe there are true love waiting for me in the future. You may think what will I write in this article? Well, I just wanna share some views of a relationships, that you probably need to read it, to help you maintain and manage your every relationship.
在任何關係中成為真正的偉大夥伴都需要付出努力和大量的意識。 毫無疑問，後者是決定因素。 最近，我看了這麼多新聞和戲劇，他們都談論他們的丈夫或男朋友在騙他們，這就是為什麼我今天想分享一些觀點，讓你們大家一起努力維護你們的關係。
老實說，我沒有很多戀愛關係，每一次戀愛都受到傷害，但是我仍然沒有放棄愛情，也相信未來會有真愛在等著我。 您可能會認為我會在這篇文章中寫什麼？ 好吧，我只是想分享一些關係的觀點，您可能需要閱讀它，以幫助您維護和管理您的每一個關係。
1. honest & trust
What’s the most important in every relationship, even in a marriage?
The first answer of mine is definitely ”honest”. Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, not only because it helps us avoid harmful breaches of trust, but because it allows us to live in reality as opposed to fantasy and to share this reality with someone else. Of course, every human being has their own unique perceptions of the world, but by sharing these perceptions with each other, we get to know each other for who we really are.
A relationship doesn’t have to be perfect. Just be honest with each other.
There is no one is perfect in the world, which your partner won’t be your ideal type, for that’s person didn’t exist. In Asia, every star or idol have their own image that it’s builded by company, which means those image is not who they really are, that’s why they will be forgot by people when scandal come up. When I was young, I always image that I want to have a boyfriend who just like a singer etc. After I grow up, I just found out that image doesn’t mean who they really are.
In my case, I remember that year is 2017 that I was 23, the first guy who I like just show up in my life and I really got hurt by him. Well, actually I am a weirdo because I am a person who are super rational, which I’m not easy to like someone. Anyway, I’m not gonna say he was cheat on me because we were just dating not into a relationship, but I just found out he had a girlfriend at that time. Hey don’t get me wrong, I am not a person who will destroy others relationship, which I stopped to contact with him as soon as I found out he had a girlfriend.
There is what I want to say is ”Honest” is the first basic important thing in a relationship, if he will chatting or dating other girl when he have a relationship, then he is not an honest person, which you have to let him go, once you find out that he doing this thing. Because he will do it again, that you don’t have to waist your time with him anymore. A person who really likes you will only want to spend time with you, there will be no extra time to chat with others.
We want to share our lives with someone special.
This is key. When you decide to make someone a priority in your day, you’re taking a step in the right direction. This doesn’t mean you’re spending every day with them, but you at least think of them.
You incorporate quality time with them into your schedule. Time is a valuable thing and none of us want to waste it, so if you’re choosing to spend your time with someone, you’ve already begun to share your life with them.
My last relationship that we were not in the same country, which means we have jet lag. Actually I still don’t know were we got in a relationship at that time lol. Anyway, what I want to say is I cherish every period when we’re awake that we can chat and share every moment, which I always reply his messages as soon as possible. For me, I think every relationship don’t need to meet everyday. Well, let me be clear, This is only in a relationship, not for a marriage. What am I saying is no matter that your relationship is a long distance, or not. If you guys can share everything, including life, sex, future, goals and family, then it’s a healthy relationship.
A good relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present, and encourages your future.
When it comes to dating or being in a relationship, it takes a certain amount of acceptance towards your partner, and when it comes to things that you can’t change. You can’t expect to have a perfect relationship or even a perfect partner for that matter, as I said on the top, no one is perfect. Relationships involve a certain amount of give and take, and there will many things that you need to accept. That’s why it’s important to figure out whether or not you and your partner are truly the right match for one another and whether or not you can accept certain things.
Sometimes we simply can’t accept certain things. This is why it’s so important to truly get to know one another while dating and even before getting into a relationship, so that you’ll know each other on such a deep level that you’ll have the chance to get to know all about their morals, beliefs, and in a nutshell, what kind of a person someone is. The only way to truly get to know someone is by spending enough quality time with them, and asking them the right types of questions.
If you’re dating someone or in a relationship, you need to realize that it’s supposed to be an “adult relationship,” and not merely some puppy type of love, like you might’ve experienced in your childhood. Therefore, relationships take hard work, effort, time, acceptance, and a certain amount of give-and-take. Not everything is always going to go the way that you want it to, and it’s important to realize that from the very get-go.
In a relationship each person should support the other; they should lift each other up.
Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you felt supported? When was the last time you felt safe, at home, encouraged, and able to be 100 percent yourself?
If your partner creates a safe space for you to do this, then you are truly blessed. If not, have you ever wondered why you don’t feel safe, supported, and loved?
When someone truly loves and supports you, they will stand beside you when you need them, and give you the space you need to roam free and grow as a person.
They will never judge you or put constraints on your mind, your physical body, or any of your dreams. They will be a cheerleader for your cause without being a groupie. They’ll go to the other side of the world for you when you need them, but they won’t smother you.
They might not be around all the time, but for the things that really matter, or for when you are sick or in the dark, they’ll be there at your side, without you even needing to ask.They might seem like the busiest person in the world or the least affectionate at times, but when it matters, they’ll drop everything for you.
Most of all, they will see you. This person will see what other people can’t. They’ll see you in all your beauty and grace, as well as your darkness and faults. They will see you for the person you are now and the amazing one they know you are truly capable of becoming, even if you can’t quite see this yourself yet.
And they’ll love you. Unconditionally. And that’s really all that matters in this life.
They Support you Emotionally
If you are down or going through something, they are there for you. True emotions always come out when things are bad.
But if they’re willing to be a supportive friend during tough times, then this person really matters to you. they care when you are hurting. They are affected if you are upset. They are emotionally invested at this point, which you has become an important part of their life.
You Consider Them When Making Future Plans
If this person crosses your mind when making future plans for the weekend, an upcoming trip or even where to grab dinner that night, then you really value spending time with them.
You are wanting to share new experiences with them. You truly enjoy quality time together. While it’s nice to always be able to do things separately, you care enough about this person to want to keep sharing your life with them.
You’re Willing to Try New Things for them.
We all get stuck in our habits of what we like to do. You could have a strict list of hobbies that you enjoy doing when you have free time such as hiking, playing video games or reading. With a partner comes a new set of hobbies that they bring to the relationship. It could be fun to try something that they like and vice versa.
I’m not saying that now you can do everything together. It’s important to keep some things separate. Keep your individuality by enjoying things outside of your relationship, but be open to trying new hobbies together.
Maybe you both have always wanted to take a dance class. Sign up for one together. Maybe you’re both interested in painting. Trying it together would be great quality time and you’d both be learning something new.
When you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone to embrace something new with your partner, not only are you sharing your life, but you’re also opening yourself up to new experiences.